“I’m still creating memories!”
With a care team he could trust, Bryan Frame found hope for the future.
When Bryan Frame first visited the doctor who would ultimately oversee his prostate cancer treatment, he was hopeful. He’d heard good things about her. And when she laid out his suggested treatment plan, he relaxed. “I appreciate her approach. She gave me a plan with systematic steps,” Bryan explains. “I trust the way she makes decisions. After all, deciding on treatment for stage IV prostate cancer isn’t an exact science. You have to weigh a lot of things—how you respond to treatment, what your goals are.”
Fact is, Bryan had already talked to another doctor. Figuring out which one he would trust his life to—well, it was ‘no contest.’ “Bottom line, I trust this gal in Houston.”
“I can focus on living my life!”
Confident of the care he’s receiving—Bryan has had radiation on bone tumors, prostatectomy (surgery to remove the prostate gland), hormone therapy, immune therapy and a bone-strengthening medication—he can turn his attention to the things that matter most. Tops on that list: Family time. Simple pleasures like watching movies and riding bikes with his wife, Cinthia, and five-year-old daughter, Kaila. “Brushing my little girl’s teeth at night—that’s what’s important to me now,” says Bryan. Despite his prognosis, “these are some of the best times of my life.”
Facing his 2011 diagnosis was a struggle, Bryan admits. “But the longer you go on and your treatment starts to work, you gradually realize you’ve got to keep moving…living.” So he moved his family from Oregon, where he was a youth pastor, to a house across the street from his parents in Colorado Springs. “It’s been a huge blessing being here. We spend a lot of time together.” Bryan flips houses with his wife and parents, and works for the company he started, The Gift of My Story, which creates videos for people facing a life-threatening illness who want to leave a legacy for their loved ones. “I do it all—the camera work, interviewing, editing. There’s a certain connection I have with these people.”
“I have a strong faith”
“I start every day reading my Bible and journaling,” says Bryan. “I keep a spiritual journal on the issues I’m dealing with God with.” Connecting with others fighting cancer has also helped. “I am grateful to a few people who have “helped me walk through this. You are not aware of this community of people with cancer until you experience it firsthand. In an odd way, it’s comforting.” But what excites Bryan most are the family activities he’s got planned. “We want to get a camper and travel—go camping, do things that are fun.” He’s been doing well, after all—he hasn’t been back to his doctor for nearly a year!
Making every day meaningful
Here’s how Bryan’s family does it.
- Schedule “together time. ”Saturdays find the Frames exploring Colorado—“we want to get a camper and travel, go camping.” Sundays, work is forbidden. “We crawl into bed with two bags of popcorn and watch family movies. We’re now watching How to Train a Dragon for the third or fourth time. I look forward to this time more than anything the whole week.”
- Appreciate your blessings. “I wanted my parents to know my little girl,” says Bryan on relocating from the West Coast. “It’s a huge blessing that we’re here. We spend a lot of time together now. My wife and mom hit garage sales every Friday and Saturday. And there’s a community pool across the street—we go there every day.”
- Minimize your stress. “When you get this kind of diagnosis, your stress level comes to 3 out of 4, and that’s where you live,” says Bryan. “I trust my doctor. And I’m informed. But I don’t spend hours on the Internet. I stick with the Prostate Cancer Foundation and their research…and I’ll stick with what works right now.”